Easiest way to catch a cheater – See who he calls on his cell phone.

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“Marriage is like a phone call in the night: first the ring, and then you wake up.” 
Evelyn Hendrickson

Let’s chat about cell phones. If your partner is cheating, he or she is going to communicate with the other involved party, and plan their next secret rendezvous. They will either speak in person, which is generally the case with office romances; correspond via email; and/or chat or text on the phone. Even with office romances, there is going to be some external communications such as email or text messaging, and that is how you are going to catch a cheater.

The easiest form of detection – Look at the call history on your partner’s phone. Better yet, look at your itemized phone bill and see who is calling your partner and whom he or she is contacting. If you do not have access to the itemized bill, this should be your first clue that something is askew. Change that situation immediately.

The next best thing to do – If you have a joint account with your partner, activate the parental control feature on his or her smart phone that runs in stealth mode to allow you to monitor calls and the person’s location.

What else can you do? – Install a spy program on his or her cell phone. Most of the software only takes minutes to install, but you must have access to your partner’s phone. These programs run in the background without the user ever being aware of its presence.


  1. Andrea says:

    I love that quote below the picture! I woke up and discovered that my husband was having an office romance when I started to notice that he would walk away from me to text someone. I followed him into our office and demanded to see the text…..and there it was….the two of them saying how they were thinking of each other. So, I agree with your post about looking at his cell phone.

  2. Barbie says:

    Why are we doing all these sneaky things behind someones back? If you think something is going on why not ask about it? If he’s cheating he obviously doesn’t want to be in the relationship.

    • Sheila says:

      I asked my husband if he was seeing someone and he lied about it. So, I don’t think asking is going to reveal the truth.

    • Susan says:

      I asked my husband if we were having problems, if he was seeing someone, and the response was always…NO! So, I can say from personal experience, that asking most men if they are cheating is not going to get you anywhere. That is why so many women need to resort to other methods to discover the truth. As so many women will tell you, many men want their cake and eat it.

  3. Donna says:

    What is the cost of a spy program for a cell phone and how easy is it to install?

    • Susan says:

      The cost is minimal and installation is as easy as watching a Youtube video. You can do the install within minutes while your husband is taking a shower or out mowing the yard.

  4. Jennifer says:

    How much does it cost to purchase a spy program?

  5. Susan says:

    The cost can range from $50 to $150 depending on company and length of time you have service.

  6. Linda says:

    We do not receive the phone bills to our house. My husband has a company phone and the bill goes to his office. Is there anything I can do to see who he is calling without getting spyware?

    • Susan says:

      Do you know someone he works with well enough to ask that person about this so called company paid phone? The first thing I would do is find out if that is really something his company does. Cheaters find lots of ways to hide what they are doing.

  7. Nicole says:

    I knew my marriage was in trouble when I sneaked a look at my husband’s call history and found that it was deleted. That’s when I asked the cell phone carrier to start sending the bills to our house. My husband and signed up for the bills to be sent to him on the computer and no paper to the house. After making the change to paper and making sure that I got the bills as soon as they were delivered, I found the truth about him cheating with a co-worker.

    • Susan says:

      I encountered a similar situation. My ex-husband had stopped the paper bills from coming to our house, but luckily one last one made it into my hands. I asked my husband about the rather large amount and he said it was a mistake and he would take care of it. When I followed up with the carrier they told me he paid half cash at one of their locations and half with a check. They said there was no mistake in the billed amount. Busted!

  8. Anneliese says:

    I looked on my husbands phone when he was in the shower and only found calls to and from friends, so if he is cheating, he is not calling her from his cell phone. Maybe from his office?

    • Susan says:

      I did the same thing and was happy to see that my suspicions were unfounded. However, after I caught my husband in a lie, I re-examined his phone and discovered what he had done. My husband attached his male friend’s name to his girlfriend’s cell number. So, all the calls he said were from Scott wanting to meet for a drink, were actually from his insecure girlfriend. If I would ask to see his phone, the display would show a call from Scott. I discovered this by accident. You see, they always make mistakes and my husband made an obvious one. Even though I did not know Scott’s phone number, I knew that Scott, who lived in Florida, would have a 954 area code. Instead, the number had an Atlanta prefix. I wrote it down and called it….and got the girlfriend. So, if your gut tells you something is off….dig deeper.

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