I’m writing to tell woman who have dealt with infidelity in their marriage to keep in mind the old saying, “once a cheat, always a cheat”. It seems that a lot of women internalize the infidelity by believing something they did or did not do was the problem. Many make excuses for the infidelity. We think about the times we nagged our husbands or when we were moody and we think to ourselves, “Our behavior is why he went somewhere else.” We try to work on the relationship hoping he won’t do it again. Our husbands also say they won’t do it again and we want to believe them. This is the pattern my marriage followed for a number of years. It was so bad, at one point; I think I was capable of killing my husband. Fortunately, I came to my senses and divorced the man. I learned through a friend that he was now cheating on his current wife. Expected it. Not sad to hear this. It actually sunk in that it was him and not me.